Transition period is the most confusing in everyone’s life. Indian women were now caught in this transition period. As any other culture, India too is a male dominated society. India is rich in cultural values but at the same time it also suffers from many superstitious beliefs. Indian women are slowly getting bail from the cultural imprisonment but they are not fully released from the cultural disabilities. This transition from bondage to freedom can be a good sign but at the same time this is the period in which women should take wise decisions because this period has no direction, so the choice should be in such a way that it should first find a direction in order to be successful. As this article is about Indian women, I am going to produce some of my observations in Indian perspective.
Once love marriages were a rare phenomena in India. Indian literatures celebrated love marriages but Indian society perceived it only as a fiction and not as reality. The rate of love marriages are increasing day by day, at the same time honor killings and forcible separation of love couples were also reported in many places of India. One of the major drawbacks of love marriage is that most of the couples fail to continue their affection after their marriage. One of the reasons for this is due to the wrong choice taken in selecting the spouse.
Women by nature are so sentimental; Men use it as a weapon to attract women. Women fail to believe in men who behave naturally at every circumstance but believe in men who involve themselves in many sentimental activities, not whole heartedly but only in order to attract the women. One of my friend said that the first eligibility to attract women is to become an actor. It is natural for a man to involve in many activities to attract women, but at the same time it is to be noted that this acting cannot be continued after marriage and once their natural character is revealed, women realize that they were cheated and it leads to break in the relationship.Society is responsible for this, In India especially in southern states, still women are not allowed to talk freely with men, and as a result women are able to communicate only with a limited circle of men which has led to very less choice to arrive at. So, the men who approach them become the world for them without any second thought and they easily fall prey to them.
Women are known for their sacrificial nature. In India women are most flexible, especially in their households but once they get out of the house, they are not so flexible. When I asked about this to one of my neighbor woman, she said that she can’t explain this exactly but this may be due to fear or inferiority complex. There is a wide gap between politics and women of India but at the same time it should also be noted that India produced many popular women politicians. People in India do not realize that politics is mixed with our day to day life. They fail to understand that politics plays a very important role in order to survive. Politics has its own advantage, in places like office flexibility and rigidness should be balanced but unfortunately women earn lot of enemies due to the immediate decision they take which may be ethically right but practically it ends in problem.
Feminism is the most misunderstood concept in India. Indian feminist think that in order to attain equal status, a woman should fully transform like a man. Most of the Indian women fail to realize that each gender has some unique qualities and these qualities should be celebrated. They do not say “We can” rather thy say “If men, Why can’t we?” This naturally makes men consider women as competitors and they start to treat them as their enemies but some men are so clever that they instigate this ideology in order to achieve something for their gains. Another issue a man doesn’t like in a woman who claims equality is when she request to show sympathy in some situations as she is a woman. Most of the men argue that showing sympathy will not lead to equality.
Who should be blamed for it?? We all know that nations where women were given freedom were the nations that witnessed success in their economy. It is fact that giving freedom to women will lead not only the nation to success but also each and every household. The responsibility now lies with us. As it is a transition period, it takes time for the adaptation. So, women alone cannot be blamed for the mistakes, the responsibility lies with men too; men should guide them whenever they lose their balance. At the same time women should not exploit the freedom rather they should understand the difficulty of the transition period and adjust to the situations in such a way that it should not lose their identity. Equality can only be achieved by the equal contribution of men and women, so mutual respect and healthy competition should be encouraged rather than hatred and envy between genders.